We live in a society that appears liberal at first glance – sex sells, Instagram is full of eroticism, advertising relies on skin. But as soon as it comes to speaking openly about desire, lust, or our own consumption, it gets quiet.
Why?
- Upbringing & Culture: In many families, sexuality is never really discussed openly – let alone positively.
- Guilt & Shame: Those who show desire are quickly labeled as cheap. Those who expose themselves get judged. Those who pay are seen as needy.
- Morality & Status: Eroticism is often equated with „dirty“ – as if feeling desire were a sign of weakness.
The result:
Thousands of people consume eroticism in secret. And stay silent – out of fear of being judged.
Consuming in Secret – What It Does to Us
Many people share in private conversations:
„I have an OnlyFans subscription, but my girlfriend can never find out.“
„I occasionally visit an escort – it’s my way of experiencing closeness.“
„I’m into certain fetishes, but I’m ashamed of it.“
This secrecy can become burdensome:
- Hiding games in relationships
- Internal conflicts & guilt
- Lack of acceptance of your own desire
Yet sexuality is nothing bad. On the contrary – it’s part of our identity.
Openness & Honesty: A New Approach to Eroticism
More and more people – creators, sex workers, activists – are calling for a new approach to eroticism. Away from „dirty secrets.“ Toward an open, respectful engagement.
Openness doesn’t mean having to make everything public. But:
- It’s okay to use erotic offerings.
- It’s okay to feel desire.
- It’s okay to have boundaries and wishes.
The more we talk about it – anonymously, openly, respectfully – the less power shame has.
Conclusion: You’re Allowed to Enjoy. Without Hiding.
Eroticism is not a crime. Desire is not a weakness.
And shame shouldn’t be a constant companion.
Whether you consume content, use erotic services, or are yourself a creator – you’re not alone.
Millions of people do it. They just don’t say so.